Pregnant Sex

Take heart, first-time fathers. It can be terrific.

By Kevin Nelson

A lot of first-time fathers worry that their sex life is going to take a nosedive when their wife or partner becomes pregnant. Well, that’s not always true. Sex with your pregnant partner can sometimes be some of the best you’ll ever have as a couple. Those hormones are raging through her like some kind of narcotic, and since you’ve already made a baby neither of you has to worry about birth control anymore, which means you can leave those clumsy Trojans in the nightstand drawer.

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Grocery Store Aphrodisiacs

What does this have to do with being a dad? Who cares?

By Kevin Nelson

From time to time, every man needs to put a charge in his sex life–particularly if he’s married and has children. There’s hardly any time for sex, and if he does manage to find some, energy and inspiration are often missing. What he (and most of the rest of us) needs is a good aphrodisiac, something to give that slumbering sex life a rousing wake up call. Sure, you could go halfway around the world and pick up some Spanish fly (which is actually the blister beetle, the ancient’s version of Viagra) or rub the milk of a jackass on your penis (another ancient prescription for producing an erection). But there’s a much easier way: Make yourself a list and go food shopping.

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“Not This Month, Honey. I’m Tired”

The challenge of hot sex–okay, any sex–amid the patter of little feet

By Harry Maurer

“Sex? Hah! We haven’t had sex in three months.”

Sound familiar? Well, you’ve got lots of company. One of the perils of parenthood can be premature bed death: You’re plenty hale and horny, but you and the wife just don’t seem to get around to it much any more. And now that you stop to think about it, the slide started in those years when little Jason and Jennifer came along. You’ve talked about it with your mate, joked about it, fought about it, made resolutions to try harder. Nothing has worked.

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You Did What With The Piano Stool?

Ready to think creatively? Think furniture.

By Harry Maurer

“Make it new,” pronounced Ezra Pound about poetry. He could also have been talking about sex, since the greatest threat to erotic excitement is routine. If you’ve been with the same partner for years, and you’re lucky enough to be still having sex with any frequency, you’re no doubt familiar with this cycle: In the early days the electricity between you was such that the brush of a finger or a soft kiss would take you straight to heights of arousal. Gradually you learned each other’s tastes, which was exciting, too–”Oh, she likes that !” As your knowledge of each other deepened, the sex got even better. But over time the learning curve leveled off, and your lovemaking–well, it became reliable. You know how to show each other a damn good time. But you’ve been there before.

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In Praise Of Quickies

And remember-the house belongs to the kids. Think hammock. Think garage.

By Buzz McClain

Saturday nap time is the best time in our house. It’s nice and quite. It’s cozy. There’s comfort in knowing your two small children are snoozing safe and sound in their beds in the afternoon.

But the best part is, if your kids are like ours, you have a minimum of 45 minutes to a maximum of two hours to get into bed yourself. With your wife. For . . . you know . . . matrimonial relations.

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